Letter to My Family

You’ve heard the saying “Stick and Stones can break my bones but Words can Never harm me”

That’s a BIG FAT LIE!

Think back to a time when someone called you a not so nice name or called you stupid. It hurt didn’t it. It did not make you feel good. They can never take back what they said; you heard it and it went right to your heart, your sub-conscious mind. Words have the power to bring Life or death. Remember that the next time you get angry and choose your words wisely!

I’ll tell you how to take the sting out of unkind words spoken to you.

Here’s a secret for you to ponder:

Nothing in life has any meaning unless YOU give it meaning!

When I was younger, my feelings got hurt very easily. It was probably because I never felt good about myself. There were plenty of times when I didn’t even like myself. I was never good enough, smart enough, pretty enough…I hope none of you feel that way but if you can relate, I’ve got the antedote. All someone had to do was look at me wrong and I took it to mean they hated me, even when they were not looking at me at all. If a teacher corrected me in school, I took it as I was stupid. No boy would ever like me because I was too short and fat. Most of my interactions with other people I perceived as negative because I saw myself as a negative. I gave it the wrong meaning. I didn’t know it at the time but since I believed the lie in my heart, I acted accordingly. This attracted more of the same negative behavior on my part and the natural response from others was they didn’t want to hang out with me. (I can’t blame them. Who wants to hang out with such a moody, unhappy, boring person?)

I had to learn to see myself differently. I had to choose to love myself, imperfections and all. If I couldn’t like me, how could anyone else? This was one of the hardest things for me to do. The help I needed came from my creator, the Creator of the Universe. If He could love me just the way I am, who am I not to. I had to start consciously listing my good qualities, which was hard at first as I was concentrating on the negative for so long. I had to only look at myself positively, correcting myself each time I started thinking negatively….like a million times a day!

Here’s another secret: This is how I corrected myself.

You can look back on something bad that happened to you that made you feel uncomfortable or even very painful and deliberately change the way you “saw” it so it doesn’t hurt or bother you any more.

I learned this only a short time ago and now I do this as often and as soon as I need to. This is a secret to how I stay happy no matter what! I tell you these things now so that when someone treats you in a way you don’t like, which will happen, you can choose how you feel about the situation and the person by giving it a meaning that is positive.

When I was growing up, I would practice my electric guitar and experiment with different effects and sounds. I lived in a small house so take that into consideration. Quite frequently, my Mom would holler to me to “Turn that &@% %@^^ thing down!” The meaning I put to that regular statement was I sounded awful, I would never get a good sounding tone, no one would ever want to hear me. I did not have the information I’m telling you now and it affected me deeply until I obtained the key to get released from it’s clutches on my heart. With that key, I thought back in my mind to those situations, remembered the feelings and thoughts I had at that moment and looked at those events from a different perspective. Here are the questions I asked myself (as is the formula for addressing all of your hurts).

• Was what I thought, the meaning I gave it at the time TRUE?
• What was the real intent behind the words?
• Can I change the words to what they really meant?

Of course. All she was telling me was she was annoyed because she couldn’t hear what was on TV. She did not mean she didn’t want me to practice, or that I sounded terrible. (I’m sure some of the sounds did sound awful but that was not her point.) I looked at that situation, heard her real meaning she was trying to convey, thought about it a minute, played it back a few times in my mind, observed my feelings after asking those questions and guess what. The thoughts no longer were negative. It didn’t hurt me any more.

At first, this was difficult for me. I had to really work at it but the more I did it, the easier it got. My ego didn’t like it at all! That part of me wanted to be angry but since I call the shots, not my ego, I win.

It is important for you to guard your heart (feelings) and mind (thoughts) with all diligence. If you don’t keep a positive attitude, you are less likely to create or get what you want. A positive attitude actually attracts what you want to you…just as a negative attitude attracts what you don’t want. If you change your thoughts, you automatically change your words because out of the heart, the mouth speaks. Only you can control your thoughts and words. Only you are responsible for both. Remember that words are very powerful. They can deliver either Life or death.

Everyone seems to strive to be ‘successful’ in life. We all look to apply the ‘Law of Attraction’ to gain ‘success’.

But what is ‘success’? What makes you successful, and what makes you a ‘failure’?

To answer this question, let’s first take a look at our world. Our societies are completely focused on our five senses of seeing, hearing, tasting, touching and smelling. Our five senses are constantly stimulated. They are enticed and exploited all the time.

It is therefore no surprise that we tend to focus our minds on materialism 24 hours per day. We tend to focus all the time on big cars, big houses, lots of money in the bank, and so on.

There is nothing wrong with that in itself. Neither does this mean that being ‘spiritual’ equals being poor and living in a dump. That doesn’t make sense either. The problem is not with the ‘material’ objects themselves. I’ll get back to this later.

First, I’d like to know this… So many people want to ‘attract a new car’. But what is it with cars anyway? Somehow the car has become a symbol of status, of ‘success’. I know a number of people (even some well-known ones) who are so obsessed with their cars, they even give names to their car.

A friend of mine had a car and was really proud of it. He called this car ‘Infinity’. Another friend of mine doesn’t care the least bit about what kind of car he drives. Still, he needed to buy a car the other day to be able drive to work. But because he didn’t really care about it, he simply bought the first set of wheels that he liked even just a bit and of which he thought the price was right for him. “If I can drive to work and back with it, then that’s a great car for me”, he thought.

He bought himself a pretty old car to be honest. It certainly didn’t look that fancy. The other friend would have dubbed it a piece of junk. But this guy couldn’t care less. In fact, he could see the fun of it. In response to my other friend who called his car ‘Infinity’, this guy decided to give his car a name too. He called it ‘Finity’.

I kid you not, this is a true story. What it illustrates is the relativity of ‘status’ and ‘success’. What one person would consider being dignified, could be considered by the next person as pathetic.

Like I said, the trap is not with material objects themselves. These are just frequency patterns anyway. The problem comes when we see those objects as the ultimate goals and the very symbols of success that confirm whether we ‘made it’ in life or not.

It is for this reason that many people look to others to confirm to themselves if they are ‘doing well’ or if they are ‘successful’. When you don’t succeed in terms of big houses, big cars, big money, you are often considered as a ‘failure’, and often consider yourself as such.

The whole system thrives on consumption and the constant expansion of consumption, and the more we consume, the more we are considered to be ‘successful’. This even leads to many people borrowing more of what they don’t have and getting in even deeper trouble, simply to provide themselves the very things that should testify to others of their alleged ‘success’.

So is this the kind of ‘success’ you are looking for?

What if I told you that the real success you are looking for is not having all kinds of material stuff, but is actually called ‘happiness’?

After all, why would you want a lot of money, or a big house, or a big car? Why would you want others to approve of you? In the end it all comes down to a desire for a sense of security and happiness, and being able to live life on your own terms. The quest ends when you’re happy and fulfilled.

But when are you happy and fulfilled?

Here’s a hint from what a wise man once said:

“Money and fame do not happiness make.”

Don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with having a lot of money, or being well-known, or having big cars and big houses. These are all thought fields and are just experience. The problem is that so many people get absorbed in pursuing the material ‘dream’ that they forget about why they are doing that in the first place.

I believe it was John Harricharan who said this:

“Most people are so busy trying to make a living, they forget to make a life.”

He’s right. Most people are ‘human doings’ instead of ‘human beings’.

The funny thing is that the greatest payoff from trying to get what you want through working with the ‘Law of Attraction’ comes from a state of being. It is a state of happiness, contentment and love and gratitude for what IS that gets you what you truly want.

At any rate, the greatest payoff from your attraction efforts does certainly not come from an obsession with ever more material stuff in the merry-go-round that gets faster by the day, for the sole reason to seek approval and confirmation of your ‘success’ from others, in order to compensate for a lack of self-esteem that is the cause of this obsession to begin with.

A sense of security, self-esteem and ‘success’ is found within yourself, not outside.

And the funny thing is that once you give up the obsession with possession and finally acknowledge your true self, the person who you really are deep inside, you seem to manifest what you want much more easily.

When that happens, you can enjoy all kinds of material stuff as much as you like, if that’s what you choose. You can choose to have a big car if you like. You can choose to live in a big house if that’s what you want.

The difference is that you won’t be controlled by the never-ending pursuit of these things. You won’t be ‘on the path to happiness and success’ anymore. You would just BE happy instead, and from there you will allow things to manifest instead of chasing them forever. It’s a small difference in perception, but with profound effects.

It is then that you will start to live life, instead of life living you.

So what is ‘success’?

Success, my friend, is what you define it to be.

Now go manifest your success, whatever that is for you!

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Nicholas P. Kidd and Henk J.M. Schram are the instigators of the alleged ‘Great Revolution’, which provides the members with truthful instructions regarding the universal principles of life.

The Revolution is receiving increasingly widespread attention for its straightforward explanations and instructions with regard to complex issues, which are made understandable for people from all walks of life. In essence, the true secrets of the ‘Law of Attraction’ and the other ‘Universal Laws’ are explained in much clearer and practical ways than the ‘enigmas wrapped in riddles’ that usually characterize the descriptions of the Law of Attraction and its application.

More information on the Great Revolution, on joining and on the ‘universal principles of life’ (the true ‘Universal Laws’) can be found at The Great Revolution.

With movies like ‘The Secret’ and ‘What the Bleep Do We Know’, and books like ‘The Attractor Factor’ by Joe Vitale and the resurfacing of ‘The Law of Success’ by Napoleon Hill, people increasingly realize that they can have much more success in life, if only they knew ‘the secret’ that all these sources talk about.