An open set of letters to my children and grandchildren: I’m writing this to you, my precious children and grandchildren, to tell you secrets that no one else will probably tell you. You haven’t learned this from your parents because they might not even know.

With movies like ‘The Secret’ and ‘What the Bleep Do We Know’, and books like ‘The Attractor Factor’ by Joe Vitale and the resurfacing of ‘The Law of Success’ by Napoleon Hill, people increasingly realize that they can have much more success in life, if only they knew ‘the secret’ that all these sources talk about.

In taking inventory of our mental assets and liabilities, one of our greatest liabilities is that of lack of self confidence.  That is mine for sure but I am taking steps to eliminate that weakness in my life and transform it into self assurance.  I remember as a child, I was so timid that any time a care drove by our rural dirt road in front of the house, I would literally hide behind a tree.  I played guitar and wrote music, all in the safety of my bedroom and if anyone were to hear me (and I knew it), I would immediately stop.  It certainly didn’t help matters any when my mother would tell me to be quiet, she wanted to hear her soap operas on TV and would seriously tell me I was not good at it.  She knew I was an artistic type but she made it clear that she prefer I pursued painting or something else that was quiet.  I really was much better at music than art.  That’s what I loved.

That little true story was the root of my insecurities, lack of self confidence, that had been instilled in me since I was a child.  Each of us has a story like that, even if we had forgotten about it.  Some authors I have read suggest we must go back to those “beginnings” and as an adult, change the way we feel about those incidences, deliberately and purposefully, in order to be healed from the negative emotions that made a deep, lasting impression on us.  The problem was, HOW?  How do we even know where to look for the “beginnings”?  In my research, I found an answer.

Here is the self confidence formula.

1. I KNOW I have the ability to achieve the object of my definate purpose and I DEMAND of myself persistant, continuous action toward it’s attainment.  I promise to myself I will do it.
2. I know the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward physical action and gradually transform themselves into physical reality.  I will concentrate my thoughts for a half hour a day on the person I intend to be, and creating in my mind, a clear mental picture of that person I am becoming.
3. I know that consistently affirming my desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression in some outward form, through some practical means to attain that desire.  I will devote 10 minutes a day to demanding myself the development of Self Confidence.
4. I have clearly written down a description of my chief aim in life, and I will never stop trying intil I have developed sufficient self confidence for its attainment.
5. I fully realize that no wealth or position will last long unless founded on Truth and Justice so I will not engage in anything that does not benefit all whom it affects.  I will succeed by attracting to myself  forces I wish to use, and the cooperation of other people.  Others will serve me because of my willingness to serve them.  I am eliminating all negative emotions like hatred, jealousy, envy, selfishness, and cynicism, by developing love for all humanity, because I know a negative attitude will never bring me true success.  I am causing others to believe in me because I believe in them and myself.

Write this down, commit it to memory, say it aloud every day with FAITH (please check one of my previous articles if you don’t know how get more faith).  It will gradually influence your thoughts and actions so that you will become a self-reliant and successful person.