In my studies in forming my own mindset for making money, I came across a very unique author. Ted Gambordella is his name. I found him through The Mentors Club (which I highly recommend). He is a holder of several black belts in martial arts as well as a staunch Christian. This is a big plus in my book because it says to me that he’s gone beyond “Churchianity” by being open minded enough to study spirituality from different perspectives. Anyway, what he says in his book makes 100% sense to me. Let’s start off with a quote.
The authors of these books warn us that if we don’t maintain this PMA (Positive Mental Attitudes), we will surely
fail to become successful.. These books are very popular, but why are there so many of
them? If the PMA theory worked, wouldn’t one well-written text be enough? Browse
through any book store and there is an entire section on PMA. You may attend lectures
and seminars or buy tapes on PMA, but you will still be broke, and probably become
frustrated as well.
There are enough problems with PMA to fill a library. This book touches on the
most obvious. More importantly, this book will explain how successful people got that
way, and how you can use the same power to become successful. This power is the same
power that runs the universe. It is called an Obsessive Mental Attitude (OMA). There is
only one reason you have not become successful. It is that YOU HAVE NOT HAD AN
OPPORTUNITY TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL THAT YOU PURSUED WITH AN
OBSESSIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE.
Let me say something that is very important that you understand as you read this
book. Many of you might be thinking, Oh, sure, Obsession is the real secret of success.
Great, I KNEW that already, so what? But you don’t know that; you didn’t know that. If
you are thinking that, you don’t know that at all. What you in fact knew about the mental
secrets of success is all wrong. You believed, and have been led to believe, that the
mental secret to success is to begin with a positive mental attitude, maintain it throughout
your effort, put in the hours, do the work, and you will succeed. That is simply not true;
it is wrong from the start. You may begin with a positive mental attitude, but you cannot
stay positive, put in the hours, and do the work, so you won’t succeed. The proof is
shown in the number of times you have tried in vain to succeed using their program for
success, despite your best PMA efforts.
I too have been falling into that and even actively promoting it! I still do as I find it to have a positive influence on my life but so far, NOT in the areas I want it to ie. making enough money to retire on. I’ve got only 5 years left for that and I spent all of my previous savings for retirement moving to my current location to care for my elderly father who recently passed away. WOW, that was a long sentence! NOW I must become OBSESSIVE! How about you? How do you become obsessive about making money or anything else for that matter? See if what Ted says makes sense to you:
Only when your “dream” is an Obsession will you make it your
possession.
Let me ask you to fill out a better list, instead of writing a list of the things you
would do, if you were sure you could not fail, or if money was no object. Make a list of
the things you would not like to lose at any cost, in fact make a list of the things you
would sacrifice for to keep, and make a list of the things you would die for. This is a real
list of things that you would work to get, and are working to get, and will work to get,
and it doesn’t matter the amount of money necessary, or the time or effort necessary. You
list is your personal list of your Obsessions. For some it may include children, and for
the millionaires it will include your work. For all it will include air, food, water, health,
freedom, security, happiness, a home, etc. The other stuff, the stuff on your “dream PMA
list” is not on this list, and that is why you don’t have it.
With an Obsessive Mental Attitude you will NOT be influenced by either a positive or negative thought. They will be deflected but you remain steadfast on what your obsession is, your focus. NOTHING can or will stop you. You will not give up when discouraged because you will get what you are obsessed about no matter what! Think of any really successful person you know. Do they possess this quality? You bet they do!
I hope this has helped you see that you are NOT a failure. You need only to incorporate obsession to achieve your desires. Hmmm, Now the question is “How badly DO I want what I want?”
